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Dave Barter
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Dear all, sorry for resurrecting this thread but wanted to let those that contacted Mum know she passed away peacefully last week. Her fight was incredible. My Dad passed away last year and Mum carried on resolutely at home as independent as possible despite being confined to a chair permanently. She continued to receive cards and postcards from many and each one buoyed her up. I have so many messages from her letting me know that something new had arrived.

In late June Mum's cancer got the better of her and she was transferred into care with a 2 week prognosis. Typical of Mum she rallied and was her normal self until about 10 days ago when she finally lapsed into unconsciousness. Even then she fought on and passed away peacefully last Thursday. We were privileged to have had so much time with her and also fortunate that the care home recognised our situation and found a way to make visits happen.

The reason for typing this is that I am at her house now and have just found the massive box of card/messages/pictures/artwork etc... you all sent. It's quite emotional to see it all. I want to thank each and every one of you for bringing a tiny bit of light into the struggle of the strongest woman I will ever know,

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Sorry to hear that Mr B. Condolences and best wishes.
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Very sorry to hear that Dave
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I'm really sorry to hear about your mum's passing Dave. Never an easy time to deal with such a major bereavement, but Covid has made it so much harder. Take care and try to make sure you make time to look after yourself too.
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Sorry to hear that Dave, my condolences.
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Sad news Dave, I hope she's left behind a wealth of good memories for you all.
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Sorry to hear this Dave, sounds like she was a real fighter. 18 months since my mum died, I think of her most days.
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Sorry to hear that Dave. My condolences... :sad:
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Really sorry to hear that Dave, my condolences. I am sure you have a lifetime of good memories with her and your dad.
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Genuinely sorry to hear the news Dave. Sending bits and bobs probably gave me more pleasure than it gave your mum receiving them, so thank you for the opportinity.

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sorry for your loss Dave,

keep well mate.
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Sorry for your loss Dave, thoughts go out to you & family..
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So sorry to hear that Dave. Hope your memories of her are happy ones.
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With admiration of your mother's strength and spirit. Like mother, like son. Condolences and best wishes to you Dave.
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Sorry for your loss Dave. I have no doubt you made her a very happy and proud mum.
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As the ‘epitaph’ on my emails stays:
“It seems to scatter the snow, the storm that in the garden makes the flowers fall...
No ! What fades and passes is myself...”

So we must understand how precious these moments are...

We are all going down the same route, some realise that a lot more than others...

On the one hand it is very sad... but there’s such an awful lot that we do not understand...

Best wishes Dave to you and your family, and celebrate her life.
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Hi Dave

So sorry to hear this. My families thoughts are with you today.
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Sorry to hear about your mum Dave. That really is very sad news.

Best wishes to you.

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Condolences Dave,
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I'm very sorry to hear that you lost your mum Dave, condolences and best wishes.
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Best wishes Dave. Really sorry to hear the news about mum.
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Sorry to hear that Dave. It's clear that her fighting spirit has been passed on, and I'm sure you've made her very proud. As others have said, make sure to look after yourself, even if it seems impossible at the moment.
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Sorry to read this Dave. She always sounded like a strong character with an inspiring attitude.
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Wishing you and your family all the best, very sorry to hear that.
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Our condolences Dave, thoughts are with you and your family. Mark
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